A broken heart often leads us down many paths, each one a di..

A broken heart often leads us down many paths, each one a different attempt to fill that unbearable void left behind. 

Some of us throw ourselves into work or new hobbies, trying to become better versions of ourselves in what can be a desperate bid for validation, competition or retaliation. Others turn to distractions or addictions, anything to dull the pain. Some escape into denial, imagining a world where the hurt doesn’t exist. And some, in their loneliness, seek solace in others.

The emptiness can feel insufferable. The reality of being alone can feel like too much to endure, and for a while, any escape, no matter how fleeting or hollow, seems like the only way to keep going. 

I tried it all. But through the storm of my emotions, I clung to one truth: "No tree, it is said, can grow to heaven unless its roots reach down to hell."

There’s so much to be learned from this one "simple" sentence. Here's three of the guiding principles that have helped me through some of the hardest moments:

Embrace. Feel every moment of that burning hell. Remember, giving in is not the same as giving up. In fact, they are often opposites. Every escape is a way to avoid the very feelings that bring the most valuable lessons. The cost is steep — sleepless nights, endless tears, and moments of utter darkness and hopelessness. But this investment will pay off. You’ll uncover new depths to your character, your capacity, and your love for yourself and the future chapters of your life.

Don’t shy away from the moments that hurt the most or the tasks that seem impossible. Your roots are forged by embracing, accepting, and forgiving the very things you want to avoid.

Aim. Don’t suffer for the sake of suffering. Do it with purpose. Do it to learn, to send your roots deeper, so you can grow bigger and reach higher. This is where your mindset must shift in the most profound way — don’t run away, run toward.

Re-discover yourself, align your life with your heart’s compass, and live with intention, fully and unconditionally — and thus unlike ever before.

Nourish. Like a tree, we need nourishment to survive and thrive. Self-care is nonnegotiable; it’s the most crucial practice you can adopt. You must learn to cultivate new sources of love, safety, appreciation, and excitement — the things you once relied on that special someone for.

Burning challenges and conscious navigation, paired with humility, patience, and kindness, form the recipe for a life that’s both healthy and abundant.

Making it your mission to fill your life with new people, places and projects that fills your heart and soul, is not only one of the most rewarding missions in our lives, but it can also be incredibly incredibly fun! 

Another, far more simple and straight forward, way of looking at it is this: If you’re in hell, why would you stop here? Keep going 🤷‍♂️

A broken heart often leads us down many paths. Letting go for me is not neccesarily about closing a door or shutting someone out for good. It’s about releasing the hold that pain or attachment has over you, so you can move forward without being weighed down. It’s not about forgetting, but about embracing the lessons and finding peace within yourself. For me it's also about celebrating the good times. I think it's very common to taint a whole history with someone because it makes it easier to let go and move on. For me, letting go means creating space for growth, self-love, and new beginnings, while still carrying both the wisdom and the heart-warming moments of the past. It’s about accepting that sometimes, the best way to honor what’s been is to release it with grace and allowing room for the person you are becoming. 

Letting go is the ultimate act of freedom — a declaration that your future is no longer defined by what you’ve lost, but by what you are ready to gain; who you are ready to become.